These days, it seems that Celebrity lives are serving in the place of the old cautionary tales and fables which used to impart the lessons of virtue to us, and the consequences of poor impulse control. We see stunning acts of kindness and humanity from the likes of Keanu Reeves -(https://www.insider.com/keanu-reeves-greatest-person-ever-2019-8) as often as we see the apparent self-destruction of people like Jussie Smollet (https://www.bbc.com/news/newsbeat-47317701).
The news is full of these extreme stories of either how we should be, or how we shouldn’t live our lives. Teaching morality is out of vogue because of society’s modern reluctance to impose any type of judgment on anyone for any behavior or mistake. However, the human condition finds a way to present us these “do as” and “don’t do that” life choices.
The lessons to draw from these celebrity antics are just not as starkly spelled out as one would find with an Aesop Fable or a Hans Christian Anderson fairy tale. Whether we have the discernment to emulate the heroes or mimic the idiots is all part of how we view the world. It’s actually going to be the topic of a future blog!
Today, let’s look at something that falls somewhere in between, the twin lessons of trust and forgiveness. This topic came to mind seeing this headline – “Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel make 1st public appearance since apology” (https://www.today.com/popculture/justin-timberlake-jessica-biel-make-1st-appearance-apology-t173132) I remember when the story first broke, how disappointing, such a lovely couple who literally had it all.
Justin is quoted in several sources as saying “I let my boundaries down”. That’s very interesting. What compelled those boundaries to become weak? What circumstances? What chain of poor choices led to those infamous pictures of him holding another woman’s hand? It matters and it doesn’t, the result, however, is a breach of trust.
Trust is such a crucial element of any committed relationship, especially these days when temptation is just an app or a text away. In my Hypnosis practice, I have dealt with that core issue of trust with hundreds of clients. Sometimes there is no clear initial reason for their relationship problem, but things always become clear later. And, sometimes clients seem to have just made poor life partner choices!
The great thing is that you (as a client) don’t need to know that conscious reason why you can’t trust. It’s there in the subconscious and a very good hypnotist can help you to find it, and help you overcome this problem. Trust issues can come from a range of things such as a broken heart through betrayal, poor parenting experienced as a child or even as deep-seated loneliness that’s caused you to embraced certain tendencies as a protective measure.
One of the keys to rebuilding that feeling of trust is Forgiveness, as exhibited by Jessica Biel towards Justin Timberlake, and to probably a great degree, Justin to himself! Once again, a good Hypnotist can help find that desire for forgiveness in your subconscious and lead you to that place where you can fully embrace it. You’ll be able to forgive others and sometimes, more importantly, even yourself.
In addition, you can learn to set boundaries so that you are safe, you can learn to say “no” and to stand up for yourself, to let go of old fears and to change the subconscious blueprint of the type of person who you are attracted to. All of this will help you trust others where it is sensible to and to trust yourself as well.
If you’d like some more information about trust issues, read this article “Signs of trust Issues according to “goodtherapy.org” (https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/trust-issues).
Also, if you’d like more information about Trust and Forgiveness, in regards to your own personal situation, book your free telephone consultation with me right now!
