Out of all of the 365 days in a year (except this leap year of 2020, then its 366!) there is only one day across the nation and across the world that can bruise your ego and break your heart if you let it! It’s, of course, Saint Valentine’s Day, February 14th.
Valentine’s day is the second busiest shopping day after Christmas in the American Consumers Calendar. All the marketing and all the hype is geared towards making the consumer affirm their love with cards, candy, flowers and romantic dinners out at candle-lit restaurants. The flip side of this huge marketing push does something else however, it sends a message to people who are single that they are really missing out.
If you are single on Valentine’s day the message is not that you are NOT loved, not desired, nor not held in high esteem by anyone, you know that don’t you? It can certainly feel like a gut punch to the ego and a source for a few sad, lonely evenings at this time of year but come on, is it true? Are you unworthy, less than, unimportant, utterly unloved and unloveable just because on this one particular day, you don’t have a romantic partner in your life?
If you are single take some time to close your eyes and really think about it. Your adult brain may be able to rationalize that this is absolute rubbish, but remember, you were raised on a diet of Fairy Tales, Romantic Comedy Movies and silly Love Songs on the Radio. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little blue and wistful at this time of year if you don’t have that special someone. But for others, the pain on this “Lover’s Holiday” can be much worse. If you have or have had for some time an almost constant, overwhelming sadness or a loneliness that can not be shaken then please reach out to me and book a free consultation here on www.familyfirsthypnosis.com I have a heart (pun intended) for those with chronic loneliness and I also have the skills and tools to help.
In the meantime, if you do have that “blue” feeling, there are a ton of great suggestions for singles to survive all the “lovey- doveyness” that’s in the air. For example, according to Cosmopolitan Magazine – Valentine’s Day isn’t just about nor is it exclusive to romantic love. Quoted in this article is Robert Vandor, of www.LunchDates.com who says, “If you’re not getting flowers this year, give them!” Brighten someone else’s day.. There is always someone who needs a bit of appreciation. The article also suggests volunteering for a charity – “Give away your time, energy, and skills unconditionally to serve others,” https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a25671896/single-on-valentines-day/
You might also show that one person who has been with you throughout your whole life some love and apperception – YOURSELF. Treat yourself to something indulgent like a spa day, cross an adventure or activity of your bucket list, involve yourself in an adventure, you never know who you might meet!
Life Hack dot org has a great article on finding a few things for a single to do for themselves on Saint Valentine ’s Day – https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/5-fun-things-can-youre-single-valentines-day.html
However you choose to spend Saint Valentine’s Day, Whether alone or with someone special, you need a reminder that you are a unique, wonderful, complicated and interesting individual the likes of which the world has never seen before! You deserve to know that you are lovable not just one out of 365 (or 366!) but for every day every year.
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