Of all the vows a narcissistic person has the most trouble adhering to, it seems “Love, Honor and Cherish” are the top of the list. This is because those vows always turn into a hattrick of hurtful behaviors used against the victim of all their gaslighting, their spouse.
Celeste Hackett is a Board-Certified Hypnotist and Coach in the Dallas/Fort Worth area. She frequently helps her clients deal with people who exhibit such behavior as a narcissist. She says, “This type of behavior does not have to be diagnosed for you to suffer from their abuse. As a matter of fact, most narcissists wouldn’t be caught dead being examined by a mental health professional. This is because they think that there is a nothing wrong with the way treat people. In their view, you are the one with the problem”.
Psycom.net in their article called Signs You’re Married To A Narcissist—And What To Do About It (Psycom.net article), lists several signs that help you to identify that you are indeed married to a narcissist, they include; feeling isolated, lies and gaslighting, attempts to make you Jealous and one of the most manipulative of all, when the signature ‘Love Bombs’ dwindle. According to the article that’s when all the romance, adoration, sweet gifts and loving ways stops after marriage and only returns when the narcissist wants something from you.
When it comes to being married to a narcissist, especially when divorce or separation is not immediately an option due to religious, cultural, family dynamics or even financial reasons, Celeste has advice on how you can survive and cope – “The number one thing needed is to rebuild your self-esteem and also find support and encouragement from other resources”.
Psych Central dot com in their article How to Live with a Narcissist (PsychCentral.com article) confirms that surviving a narcissistic marriage includes such a step as Celeste mentioned, although they refer to it as “Fortify your self-esteem and self-soothing”. Celeste goes on to explain more – “After building self-esteem and finding a new support system, the next step is to realize that the relationship will never be ideal, and grieving that. It’s a huge loss, especially when you have a family built around the relationship”.
The challenges you face when you have realized that your spouse does not have the mental capacity or empathetic bandwidth to reciprocate the real meaning of those Wedding Vows can be devastating. But there is hope for a better life. It starts with a free 30-minute consultation with Celeste at Family First Hypnosis.
About her work with the victims of narcissists Celeste goes on to say, “You’ll be surprised how well you handle yourself in the relationship”, or as one of her client’s put it, “I am now not only surviving in a ‘concentration camp’ but thriving. I am also preparing for the day I leave, and I’ll know when that day is right. It will be on my own terms, and I will have no regrets.”
Celeste not only offers professional Hypnosis and Coaching services, but every one of her clients is taught a potent form of Self-Hypnosis, which is yours for life.
During your free consultation, even if you do not book a session with Celeste, you will likely learn something new and be even more inspired towards your goals.
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